Threesomes: three times... the pleasure or the trouble?

September 30, 2014 Fajar 0 Comments




I once read somewhere that a threesome is one of the most common sexual fantasies amongst people. And it is true, that asking around you will find out that either most people have had a threesome, or want to... at least in theory. When it comes to me, a threesome is one of my sexual fantasies as well... but I can’t help wondering why I turned down the opportunity to make it come true. Naturally therefore, this story differs from my previous ones, as it doesn’t only involve me and a guy I dated, but also his wife.

 I met Aaron probably 4 months ago, during the busiest time of my final year. He’s 37 and had just moved to London from the States. But Aaron is married. At the time he was separated, his wife had not moved to London and from what he told me, he had an open relationship with her throughout their marriage. As much as I respect their choices, the only reason I thought it was acceptable to date him, was the fact that he was separated. But, what impressed me mostly was how patient he was with me, when I couldn’t meet up with him and after seeing him briefly a couple of times I had to take off for a month. I didn’t think much of it at the time, because I was sure that we would lose touch by the time I returned to London. In my mind there was no way that he would wait for me until I came back. So imagine my surprise when Aaron not only waited for me to return to London, but he also kept in touch with me for two months while I was away.  Despite having my doubts about dating him, I thought that someone that waited for so long to see me was worth a shot.


 A week after my return to London, I arranged to see him for a quick drink somewhere between our busy schedules. I was about to tell him that I wasn’t sure about dating him, and maybe it would be best to just leave it, but little did I know.. He informed me that his wife had moved to London to a new job, and they were back together, but still in an open relationship. My first thought was that I was putting myself in a mess... again! Really, had I not learnt anything from my experience with Mat and Nick? You never get involved with a man who shares his feelings for you... it always ends badly! Anyhow, thinking that I have learnt my lesson and half way through preparing my polite refusal to date him again, he dropped a bomb: “I showed my wife some photos of you and she wants to meet you. How about we go for a drink, all three of us?” He showed me photos of her, to which I had to admit she was drop dead gorgeous and then he  informed me that she was bisexual. Before I had time to process everything, he asked me if I wanted to join them... in bed. I was shocked, but the proposal somehow intrigued me.  I always wanted to try a threesome, it’s one of my greatest fantasies... then why the hell did I feel like this wasn’t the right thing to do? I wanted to say yes and no at the same time, so in order to avoid sounding like a complete psycho I said I would think about it.

 I came back home the same day feeling confused but excited. I started discussing it with Kate, who stopped me halfway and said “You are not seriously considering it right?” and then she walked out on me. After contemplating it for a while, I decided it was time to call in more help. I invited Shayla and Vivi last night and over some wine I decided to tell them the whole story. Both of them admitted that a threesome was one of their biggest sexual fantasies, but each one of them wanted it differently: Vivi would prefer two guys to join her and Shayla wasn’t sure she could do it with people she knew, so she would rather be with two people that she would never have to face again. I on the other hand, disagreed. My ideal fantasy would be another guy and a girl. So why was I still thinking about it? When Vivi asked if I wanted to do it, I said ‘I don’t know’, and then she said in a serious tone: “Don’t do it then. If you wanted to do it, you would know”.

 By now I know I won’t do it. As much as the proposal intrigues me and excites me, I decided not to jump into something I’m not quite sure about. But if a threesome has always been on the top of my sexual fantasies list, I can’t help but wonder... what really makes me say no? Am I really that old-fashioned or is this something I don’t want to do with practically two strangers? Are threesomes really that exciting for me or was I so jaded that I wanted to do something completely different when I delayed saying no?

 After some time, I realised that a threesome is an amazing idea in theory... but in practice, at least for me, all the right conditions need to take place. I would never have a threesome with two strangers. I will probably say yes, when it’s a man that I know and I trust and have another girl join us. Or maybe it will never happen. But at least now I know that I made the right choice. Magic might happen outside your comfort zone, but maybe I’m not ready to jump so far away from it. 

 What do you think about threesomes? Ever had one? Is it as exciting as they make it be or is it way overrated? Comment and let me know!
  


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